Tags: Disease to please, parenting
Is is more important to teach your children to be nice or to speak their truth? I know my answer! I try my hardest not to force my children to act a certain (acceptable to others) way. I notice it most when people ask my children a question and for whatever reason they don’t feel like responding and we sit quietly while crickets chirp. Sometimes I will answer for them or change the subject but I am not one of those parents who will sit there and say, “say hi to the nice lady.” If they don’t feel comfortable enough with the situation to say hi why would I force that. We all know they know how to say hi. Maybe they don’t trust this stranger. Why should I force them to go against their instinctual feelings?
Oh but what harm will be done if we expect them to respond? Do you say yes when you really want to say no? Do you apologize often when you are not sorry? Do you avoid confrontation at all costs? Do you put everyone else’s needs in your life above your own? I think this quick video gives plenty of reasons to allow our children to speak their truth. After all, the ultimate goal is happy, healthy adults, right? Listen and see what you think.